A Script

You know how when you're sexually attracted to someone, and you feel like you've got a connection-- a Click if you will-- there's a kind of a prescribed dialogue in place to get to know them better.  A script, as it were.  Like say you meet through mutual friends:

You are hanging out with a group and you notice you like what this person keeps bringing to the conversation.  The feeling is clearly mutual.  You start catching each other's eyes when you talk, like "You're totally gonna get what I'm saying."  Eventually, one or both of you realizes what's going on, where this could lead, and you seize the opportunity.  If the conversation has any openings to ask about them you take it, "What do you do?  Where are you from?  What do you like?"  And it goes on like that for awhile.  Then when group's about to split up, to go home, you wonderfully, casually get their phone number or their facebook or whatever, so then later without the prying eyes of the group you can say "Hey, I was wondering if you'd like to get coffee."

And it's that easy.  Really the script is like a series of social cues and then one phrase.  And then you can get coffee and talk about them all day, because hell you know that's all you've wanted to do since you realized you were into them: learn. every. little. thing. about them.

So anyway, here's the thing.  What's the script for people you aren't sexually attracted to?  People that you just want to get to know.  Mainly, I find myself meeting women that I Click with, and really wanting to learn everything there is to know about them and spend time with them.  And I just don't know how to do it.  I find myself subconsciously reverting to the same script I'd use on men (which Abigail assures me is actually right).  But when it comes to the time to say, "Hey, you wanna get coffee?  I just want to get to know you better" it just sounds so weird.  There's just like an expedited pathway to getting to know someone if you attracted to them, but I feel like if a relationship's platonic it's got to develop a little more organically.

Maybe it doesn't, but I dunno.  Women are so hard.